Alice had a past life regression with me after discovering that her husband, after 30 years of marriage, was having an affair. She was heartbroken and devastated after finding passionate letters declaring their undying love for each other. He’d betrayed her and hidden his secret for years!
During her regression, we discovered that what most terrified her about her husband’s affair was not that he’d betrayed her, as horrible as that was. But it was what the betrayal meant. It carried a shameful message to her that her life no longer had a purpose. Tears flowed as she told me that she felt she had completely lost her self value.
Following my inner guide, I decided to momentarily shift the subject and discuss how it felt for her to mother her children and raise them.
Still in the regressed state of deep relaxation, her broken heart’s tears moved into a beautiful smile as she described her love for her children and how much she loved being their mother. She took great joy in knowing that her children had been blessed growing up with her great love for them. She also had a lot of satisfaction because of their appreciation to her.
Continuing to follow my inner guide, I then asked how she would describe herself as a wife for all these years. It was the same beautiful story of how much she had loved and devoted herself and forgiven her husband a million times. She explained that he had not been easy or even pleasant much of the time. She had lived with his hot temper all these years. But, regardless of his behavior, she always did her best to love and care for him and this brought her great joy.
I was now seeing Alice’s soul. She was all about love, a deeply mature spiritual love of generosity and rich giving. This was her soul’s purpose. Her passion for loving caused her to shine as she spoke of her opportunities to love her family in so many ways.
She discovered that whether or not her husband returned her love had little to do with the sustaining value of her magnificent love – her giving, making sacrifices, offering patience and steady perseverance during hard times. In these loving ways, she contributed her highest love with encouragement, care, praise, and with deep, rich caring. Her love was strong!
At this point during her regression, she was beginning to glimpse her true-life value and worth. She was beginning to understand, in fact, that her life carried great purpose! It was a complete turnaround from when she walked in with heartbreak. There was more.
By comparison, we could see, that her husband was still learning very basic lessons about love and still learning through failing. To love another with integrity requires steady discipline, strength, motivation, wisdom, loyalty, and determination. There are so many ways to fail ourselves and others.
It was interesting how, during her regressed state, we were guided to see her life from the objective standpoint of her – and not his – behavior. It was also interesting how she had stood up to all her responsibilities to love him and others, and to the best of her ability. This was turning out to be a review of her soul. She was passing with flying colors.
On the other hand, her husband had not stood up to his own responsibilities. He had failed himself, his wife, and even his lover. This is what younger, less advanced souls do. They have much learning to do. At one point, we were all there too. She began to see his betrayal was not her fault. And it didn’t cast a shadow on her self-worth or life purpose as these were in great shape.
She could see from this perspective, for the first time, that it did make sense that he must be a much younger soul than she. She had even intuited that a week before she came to the regression, wondering if it could be true but without understanding it. Now it was being reinforced. She remarked how she realized that she needed to rely more on her intuition. This seemed to be another message from the regression.
She could see that she needed to remind herself that she is a type of soul that gives love and has purpose. And this is her life contract. It also became obvious that she needed to focus on loving herself more and consider shedding people in her life who do not give back to her equally.
I commented that she has an angelic quality about her love, because her love is so pure and unconditional. I added that I imagined that others had called her an angel. She smiled and said “Yes, they had.”
She had a seismic paradigm shift. When she arrived, she held the belief that her life had no value or purpose. Her self-esteem was almost destroyed by the betrayal of her husband after reading his love letters where he poured out his heart of love for another woman, yet, he had never spoken to his wife in this passionate way.
Once she was introduced to the new paradigm of viewing herself as a soul, discovering that she was an old soul who was on a mission of love, and that she was accomplishing this goal successfully, it became less important that her husband rejected her for another woman. His betrayal no longer carried a message of her worthlessness.
The contrast between their integrity was astoundingly clear. She was to be admired for the enormous strength of character, and devotion to loving others. This depth of commitment comes from many lives and great wisdom, staying the course. Regarding the work of the soul, if she was in graduate school, he was in kindergarten.
During my years as a spiritual healer, I have found many women of great worth and soulful value who have married or partnered someone who led an unexamined life. It’s the story of an advanced soul who partners a lost or less advanced soul. And the advanced soul becomes influenced by the other’s uninformed opinions, turning the tables to throw blame on the more advanced soul. This silent mesmerism often occurs in close, intimate relationships. A partner can be a toxic influence! Just because the person needs a scapegoat for their own deplorable behavior doesn’t mean that the innocent one is to blame.
I recommend that wise souls examine if their partner is also showing up at the mature levels of accepting responsibility to love, give, create peace, and to establish the relationship with fairness, respect, honesty, compassion, and empathy. Observation is the key.
Alice had gone to great depths to reach for her truth. It required much of her energy to reach those places during the regression which would free her. She did it. And she was a changed person.
